Mama's boy

It is wonderful for a boy to love and appreciate his mother. There are certain ways for him to express his affection that are wholesome and appropriate for his age. This lad has clearly wandered off that map. Unfortunately, the mom has lured some adult man into this triangle, likely to fulfill some needs that sonny is not taking care of, yet.

I've been in a long distance relationship with the mother of a 12 year old. I visit quite often. I find it odd that her son wants to cuddle & sleep in the bed with her early in the morning or late at night. Sometimes she allows it, sometimes she doesn't. Is this a red flag? I never thought of jumping in the bed with my mother at the tender age of 12. This doesn't sit well with me. I've discussed this with her but she gets very defensive. I'd appreciate some feedback. Thanks 

Eewww! Definitely not age appropriate. Map this situation on to a father and daughter and you will see it clearly. Fortunately our man sees that something is not quite right and asks about it being a red flag. It is. So I gave him the nudge he was looking for to leave.

One word. RUN! You will never be able to compete with the boy for her affection and attention. No girl he gets involved with, if he ever does, will be able to compete with mommy.

Anger of a single mom

It never fails. Someone makes a really bad parenting choice and the consequences linger on for decades. Come on people, making a baby with someone is not like deciding where to go out to dinner. You get a bad meal and maybe you are sick the next day or two. Breed with the wrong person and you have at least three messed up lives for a very long time. Here is the lament of one breeder who made a bad choice and was mired in the consequences.

ok so i normally dont do this but im pissed how is it so easy for a guy to just act like they dont have a kid i mean dont get me wrong my daughter is my life my everything but sometimes it would just be nice to have a little f-ing help i mean really i do everything i always have he hasnt even bought any diapers ever granted shes to old for them now he has only made the effort to see her 1 time july 3 2006 she was just under 3 months old and says oh your a whore she cant be mine i got a dna test done you stupid fuk yet he still says that shit went on myspace he says he has a daughter but he has moved on to bigger and better things like what the fuk really what an ignorant s.o.b. i want to beat the fuk out of him ugh im so fkin angry i cant even go to the bathroom alone but he goes out and partys and has a good time all the time i work 40 + hours a week i bought my own house i do it all with out him but i cant even have 20 min to myself cuz his stupid ass wont do shit to help me hes such a worthless no good piece of shit i hate him all i want is 20 min to sit out side alone or to go for a drive or anything but i cant he has no clue what i go threw he has not been there for all the times she was sick none of her surgerys not a single god damn thing doesnt even pay his court ordered child support ahhhhhhhhhhhhh 

First thing I wanted to get straight with her was that she was not a victim, that she had created her circumstances. After making that point, I made it clear that she was making everyone around her miserable and that we would prefer that she stop. Right away.

I want to get this straight. Of all the possible men in your environment, you passed up all of them except for this one. Then you had sex with him and allowed him to ejaculate his seed into you without protection so his spawn can grow inside of you. Next, you drive him away with your violent tendencies and anger issues. After all this, you come here to rant about your self inflicted messed up life for what? Sympathy? No, not possible. You just want us all to kill ourselves to get away from living on a planet where someone like you exists!

Until next time.....Ginny